Guys I want to express a deep thank you to all of you for your comments and emails. My goal is to help those who have no one to turn to. I was in a position that truly broke my heart. I turned to bad people, I found out later one was a liar and a thief. The other which was a criminal and a user. I turned to these people to give me advice about my relationship with the one person I have always loved. This is the devil talking to you, please do not talk to any one else about your relationship and envy and greed drive people to give bad advise.
My wife and I had problems but they were fixable. Had I just sat her down and told her, I was having trust issues because of the various reasons, had I talked to her about her actions and friendships that were bothering me and making me uncomfortable in my own home we would probably still be together. I lost everything because of not communicating with the right person. She also failed to communicate and the anger began to show in the way we spoke to each other and acted towards each other. We destroyed our family, our children's happy home and our finances. We chose to be immature and ungodly instead of appreciating each other.
I felt unappreciated for all my hard work. I projected this in a negative manner and by ignoring my wife. My wife felt unappreciated because she was right next to me the whole time putting her trust in me and cheering me on. We created a toxic marriage real fast by looking in the rearview mirror instead of appreciating each other for everything we were actively doing for each other. The power of a text message that says I appreicate you for what you do. Thank you for dinner last night. Thank you for looking pretty last night. Hey I appreciate sweeting in the park all afternoon with our kids while I am at work. Vice versa, Hey I appreciate you and don't worry I will take care of all your stress tonight. Being loving and appreciative is what marriage is about.
No one will ever be perfect but being married is a vow in front of God not a court. This vow says we will work together to get through everything. We will help each other when we are at our lowest and we give the other the strength to to push even harder when we feel we have nothing left. We will rebuild each other over and over again no matter how many time we fail and we dedicate each other our energy and love for ever. This way of thinking and truly being is something amazing. I lost my love but found my new love in God and Jesus and that has to be enough. So gentlemen if you have your girl still, take her to church, plan a picnic at a special place and talk to her. If she doesn't want to listen, make her listen.
You can lose everything in life but when you lose each other that is a loss you will never be able to truly recoup from. I miss my wife with every breathe and if I could see her and hold her hand, look into her eyes, I would tell her all the ways I messed and that I have learned how to love her the way God wants me to love her and the way Jesus loves the church. I would have only one question for her which would be. Are you ready to follow the path that God has set for us hand in hand, without outside influences and negative energy. Are you ready to look forward with me or look back and remember us?
Gentlemen fight for love, fight for her and be the best man you can be. If that is not enough do not feel defeated as God will carry you when you have nothing left.
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